relationally, this has got to be one of the most spread out times of life. literally everyone is in a different place. i scroll through my facebook home page and see photos of brand new babies, of boyfriends and bouquets, weddings, unflattering moments from parties (and weddings), new apartments and houses and announcements about getting engaged, getting through school or getting the job promotion, moving on and starting over. and let’s not forget those posts about political and religious opinions, which either rally people together or start a rousing debate.

i’m fairly sure our twenties are meant for this, but is it just a phase? will i always feel assigned to a place in between my single and married friends starting families? what about the rest of life? i picture us all hanging on to some part of a vast, stretching spider web. will we all eventually make our way toward the center ? what would we find there? or will we always find ourselves placed sporadically on the map?

in truth, these disparities enrich us. we’re in a position where we can offer wisdom to some and accept it from others, because surely there are things we have learned along the way that someone hasn’t, and to think we can’t learn something from any one person we run into on a typical day is just not true. i could afford to learn a thing or two about marriage and parenthood and discovering my passions, but on the flipside i can share what it’s like to be a part of the corporate working world. i can attest to the importance of walking away from a relationship that has lost its course and cause. it’s all valuable, and even moreso when we experience it in our own due time, and then share it to draw together and broaden perspectives.

i think i’ll be here for awhile, hanging out on a strand of this big spider web, maybe close to you, and maybe not. it takes time to figure out life and steer in that final, solid, gut-worthy direction, but i’ll find that center, and i hope i find you there too.